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Unread 06-27-2009   #1 (permalink)
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My 9 yr old has been battling soft tissuse sarcoma (on his rear end & under the tail near the anus) since Nov '09. We have had 2 surgeries, 5 chemo treatments & now it's slowly growing back for the 3rd time. They want to amputate the tail & I say enough is enough. He has his bad times mixed with great times, but I'm just trying to keep him comfortable. I know he will give me the look when it is time. He's eating, mobile, purring & talkative & my little boy. He is a warrior having gone through this. When the time does come, how am I emotionally going to actually put him in the carrier & physically go to the vet for euthanisa? I don't know if I can keep it together. I'm strong one moment & then fall to pieces. No more surgery or chemo, this cancer is going to win. I have lost people, unexpectedly, but how do you schedule this procedure?
 
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I'm crying as I read your post. I wish I could tell you when, but only you will know that answer. I can't explain how or why, but you will know.

I just went through this on June 15, and before that on December 12. The last one, Dynah was quick...she had only appeared sick for three days (obviously being brave for me). I made the decision that her quality of life was more important. It was kidney failure and cancer, and when she was diagnosed, I knew straight away.

Back in December, I made the choice after my girl Hannah had battled illness for two months. She fought back from liver failure with the help of a feeding tube, but ultimately it was a tumor in her stomach. I could tell she was tired, I just knew when it was time.

What you said about him 'giving you the look' grabbed me right in the heart. I know that look.

No need to 'schedule' the procedure. When the time comes and you know, just call your vet and go.

As far as 'keeping it together', you don't have to. It's been just over 6 months for Hannah and just under 2 weeks for Dynah, and I still fall to pieces, daily lately. Grieve in your own way in your own time. I have traveled this road 7 times, and it never gets easier.

Know one thing...you are among kindred spirits on this board. We will be here for the good days and the bad days. We will listen, and we will understand.
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Thumbs up Thanks for yr reply/experience

As I type, Harley is laying on the desk, purring & is remembering the times when I could not type on the keyboard for him 'planting himself - in the action.'
You meant that "that look" as very special. I love your kind words & words of experience. I've never gone through this. It totally freaks me out. I'm sorry to have envoked bad memories of your loss. "God bless their little cotton socks," as we said decades ago in Memphis, about lots of things.

I want to be strong, but, gosh durnit, it's so hard! Thank you very much!
 
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We will help you to be strong. The kind people on this board were here for me, and we will be here for you. Give Harley a pet from me.
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Jane, I'm Irene. I posted this in your my cat Harley's thread .. just in case you're unable to read it, I do it again here :

Good to hear he's still eating. Nutrition helps fight the intruders and strengthen his body. Yes, you're totally right .. I'm also glad that you have had more quality time together, and lives his life to the fullest, so when it's time, you both won't regret it. I understand your position of being unable to justify more surgery/chemo .. and his time seems closer, and he will let you know when he is ready.

As for the euthanasia, here is an article about how you can prepare for that day (the procedure) :WHEN IS IT TIME?

The decision regarding the euthanasia of a beloved pet may be the most difficult decision one makes in one’s entire life; obviously, the consequences are irrevocable. Whatever the decision is, it should be one that you can always look back upon and know that the best decision was made and that you would make the same decision over again in the same situation.

So how do you know if it is time? There are several criteria used in evaluating life quality and you should consider them carefully.

Is your pet eating? Basically, quality life involves eating or at least interest in food. An animal that is hungry has vitality that must be considered, though this is not the only consideration.

Is your pet comfortable? The pet should be free of
debilitating pains, cramps, aches or even the psychological pain that comes from the development of incontinence in an animal that has been housebroken its entire life.


Does the pet still enjoy its favorite activities? The elderly pet does not necessarily need to continue chasing balls or jumping after frisbees but he should enjoy sleeping comfortably, favorite resting spots, the company of the owner etc. You know your pet better than any one and only you can truly answer these questions.
Dr. Alice Villalobos, the veterinarian who started Pawspice, a quality of life program for terminal pets, has published a scoring system for life quality called the HHHHHMM scale. The letters stand for: Hurt, Hunger, Hydration, Hygiene, Happiness, Mobility, and More Good Days than Bad. Click here to view the scoring system.

If you are considering euthanasia, discuss the pet’s condition with your veterinarian prior to making a decision or even coming in for an appointment. Every veterinarian has a story or two about the pet that was brought in for euthanasia but turned out to have a relatively simple problem and ultimately achieved a complete recovery.

The mental process of making the euthanasia decision is heart-breaking and you do not want to have to undergo this process twice but, on the other hand, you do not want to euthanize a pet with a treatable disease. Many times people come in for their euthanasia appointment having already made their decision when, in fact, their pet has a reversible problem.

Do not assume your pet’s condition is untreatable.
Call your veterinarian first and discuss the situation
before you are too far into this emotional process to turn back.

Use the medical resources available to you
to get all the facts and options before making this decision.

SHOULD YOU BE PRESENT FOR THE PROCEDURE?

Again, this is a very personal decision. On one hand, you probably do not want your pet to be alone with strangers in its final moments but on the other hand you may not be up to watching your pet’s death. Every owner wants to think of euthanasia as a gentle slipping into death much like falling asleep. In reality, the pet will probably not close its eyes, and there may be a final twitch, gasp, or even urination. Some animal hospitals do not allow pet owners to be present for euthanasia as it may be disturbing to an owner. To help ease this transition between and death, sometimes a tranquilizer is given first thus alleviating some of the above but you should keep in mind that this may not be how you want to remember your pet.

The issue of children being present is also a personal one and the above information should be considered.

HOW IS THE PROCEDURE PERFORMED?

Appropriate forms must be signed in order for the procedure to take place. If the owner is to be present, an intravenous catheter may be placed. This takes a few minutes and is usually done while the owner pays for the procedure and deals with paperwork. The payment transaction is done prior to the procedure so that the owner will not have to tearfully sign checks or credit card slips just following the emotional height of the procedure.

The intravenous catheter serves several purposes. First, the euthanasia solution is painful if administered outside the vein. The catheter insures clean access to the vein, even if the owner is holding the pet. The catheter also allows for a sedative to be administered prior to the euthanasia solution.

After the catheter is placed, the pet re-joins the owner in the exam room. The owner may spend some last time alone with the pet if desired.

The procedure itself is very fast. If a sedative is to be used, it is given first so that the pet is euthanized from a sleeping status. The euthanasia solution, generally dyed a bright color so that it cannot be mistaken for anything else, is delivered and death comes peacefully in a matter of seconds. The owner is allowed to remain with the pet for final private goodbyes. At the end of this time after the last goodbyes and caresses are completed, the owner simply exits the room when ready and the hospital staff takes over.

Let us know in advance if you would like a lock of hair or the collar as a keepsake.


Sorry I tried to put the link but I wan unable to do it, don't know why ? So I just post the article here.

You are not alone, dear ! We're all here for you and Harley !
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thanks, but it still ***sucks****, Hope I can say that?/! Right now he's groovin, calm & purring. I so appreciate the news letter on how to euthunaise. Time will tell.
 
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Hey, I did post a photo of Harley - Fred, his little pillow buddy. I guess go to Cat Photos & explore. Apparently, the 'admin' folks said his photo was cool.
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Hey, I did post a photo of Harley - Fred, his little pillow buddy. I guess go to Cat Photos & explore. Apparently, the 'admin' folks said his photo was cool.
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Jane, it usually takes a couple of days for the photo to be officially release. You're right the mod will approve photos soon afterwards. Mine took longer to get approved..hehe ! But if you wish your photos to appear immediately, you can upload them in your profile's album or post them here. Can't wait to see them in person/cat.
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