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Default Rehomed cat very stressed and unhappy

Hello, I am looking for advice re: my (former) 8 year old male cat. I would really appreciate some opinions.

I unfortunately had to rehome him 3 weeks ago, and found him a new home with a couple, no children. Unfortunately within minutes of being there he forced open a crack in a window and escaped. He went in to a garden three houses down and was attacked by other cats and was very scared. He went under a shed and would not come out, even when I went back to try to coax him out with my familiar voice. He eventually started coming out at night and bonded with the other cats, but he would not come to his new owners or his new home. They left out food and water which would be gone in the morning but I'm sure the other cats were eating some of that too. He was sleeping under the shed every night -far from his previous spoiled existence as a cat who chose to be indoor most of the day.

A week later he was on the wall of his new home and his new owners managed to entice him over with food -by this stage he must have been so hungry, cold and scared. Surprisingly he let his new owner, the man, pick him off the wall and they brought him to his new home where he was scenting everything. They decided to keep him in for at least 2 weeks. The man went away for a week so the woman was the person who he bonded with during his first days in the new home. He was ok and bonded with woman, would come for rubs and cuddles. When the man came back it seems he is afraid of him and won't come for cuddles when the man is around. He goes ouside and he spends a lot of time with the other cats, who are not wild. He comes back in the evening but in past 2 weeks he wants to go out more and more. Today he only ate his food when it was put outside for him as a last resort, he would not eat it inside, they think because he knows the door is closed when he comes inside.

The man ignores him when they're alone together and doesnt force himself on him. When both man and woman are there they try to pet him together to create a positive connection but the cat won't stay long. He is scared for most of the time that the man is there. He has never had any issue with men, he was fearful of my dad but my dad didn't like him and was very loud. This man is gentle and kind and the cat let this man lift him down off the wall when they first made contact with him. The cat has liked lots of men in his life, even strangers and work men who would enter the home randomly.

It seems like he will become an outdoor / half wild cat He was such a pampered house cat pet before. He is definitely not happy and wants to go out more and more. I am heart broken and really want to help him. I would visit him but that would probably be more distressing and confusing. It has only been 3 weeks and 1 week of that he was outside in a strange place which must have been terrifying. Do you think in time he may relax and adapt, or is it likely he is traumatised and will remain sad and wanting to be more of an outdoor cat. Is there anything else they could do? I gave them a few months of feliway plug in and I think they are using it.

Thanks so much for your help,
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